Coaching is ‘the art of facilitating the performance, learning and development of another’ (Myles Downey, 1999). It focuses the mind, gives perspective, stimulates insights, and provides practice opportunities to bring about sustained behaviour change.
Coaching (whether it be called leadership, executive, business, life or parent coaching) allows the person being coached to focus time and attention on an issue, look at it from different perspectives, problem solve, discuss new approaches, generate realistic solutions and commit to action. In effect, what a coach does is “give the client a good listening to”, as well as reflecting back the facts, thoughts, feelings and patterns that they notice as the client talks.
Coaching is for any parent, guardian, teacher or individual working with children who is committed to improving their skills for interacting with children.
One-to-one coaching sessions are usually 1½ - 2 hours long and it is often helpful to have a programme of at least three sessions, spaced three to four weeks apart.
Small group coaching programmes adopt a similar schedule and are for a maximum of six people. Participants not only benefit from expert and peer coaching on their own parenting issue, they learn how to become more effective coaches themselves (which is an immensely valuable life skill and particularly beneficial when interacting with children!).
The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.